Stage one: From St Jean to Roncesvalles. Day One.

We left before the sun rose, walked through a quiet town, followed the yellow scallop symbols past a bend or two, and then we were here……

…so now what?

We both felt kind of, well, silly. And, well, we did look silly.

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And we were doing a thing that could be called silly, at best. To be truthful, what were we doing was incredibly stupid. We were leaving our warm homes finely stocked with beds and refrigerators and TV’s to walk a road we have never seen before so we can stay in cheap-ass Spanish hostels every night until we get to a big-ass church with the bones of a dead-ass Jewish guy.

The truth was we weren’t feeling silly, we were feeling vulnerable. And we were feeling vulnerable because we were doing one of the stupidest things you could ever do: Trust.

It would be obvious to every person who saw us that we were literally helpless pilgrims in a foreign land. We had to trust the path would be there, that the other pilgrims wouldn’t hurt us, that the locals wouldn’t try to scam us, that the weather would be alright: every bend in the road was another place where we would have to trust another set of strangers.

It’s a lot to think about as you take your first few steps on the Camino de Santiago. Which is why the planners of this route made the first part so bloody difficult you won’t worry about any thing non-corporeal as everything in your Corpor will be tired, damp and in pain.

On the first two days of The Camino de Santiago we walked up. We walked down. We walked forwards. We walked backwards. We walked easy trails, and we walked hard trails….mostly hard ones, truth be told. Amongst all the Camino rumors, legends and lies one hard truth everyone agreed on is that the first two days of the Camino Francias path are the hardest of the entire Camino. Pay attention to the phrase: hard truth.

Our first day’s goal was near the Orisson Refuge, a famous mountain side albergue which was a little under 10 km away and halfway up the mountainside. The weird part was there was no room at the albergue. Or anywhere near there that we could reach on our first day after climbing up half a bloody mountain. Apparently the Camino was a lot busier than it was supposed to be. So what we had to do, and a lot of other people also had to do, was hike just past Orisson to a spot that had a Sacred Statue of the Virgin Mary, and then a van picks us up and takes us back to available beds at St Jean. Then, in the morning, the van will take us past all the hiking we will have done and back to the spot where we picked up, and we’ll continue on our way.

Which, I gotta say, it kinda messed with my head. And I’m glad it did. But more of that later…

The day’s walk was everything you want a hike in the mountains to be. We saw Basque sheep grazing and mountain Basque horses frolicking in the mist. We saw majestic views peeking out between the eye-level clouds that floated by. There was a food vendor along the way, and he was clearly a local dude selling local foods to the Pilgrims. In fact the chorizo, cheese and chocolate stocked Basque Food Van we stopped at was official enough to have a stamp that we could add to our Camino Passbook. All around his food wagon were pilgrims resting and refilling their water thingies: tattoodled young folk, middle aged couples from France and Canada, thirteen South Koreans and local folk who walk the camino every year. We ate a little, got our books stamped, and moved on down the trail, feeling hopeful.

A little later, when we arrived at the Orisson Refuge we found it to be in total contrast to our smiling ruddy-cheeked cheesemonger. This was an industrial albergue, built for speed and ease of service and nothing else. The main building housed the rooms and a cafeteria style restaurant with the standard fare of all Camino Kitchens, (the fare of which we will discuss in a separate post). Overlooking the vista of the Pyrenees was a large patio stocked with campground picnic tables with room for about one hundred twenty people. We were told that the half- empty patio is for paying customers only by an unsmiling waitress after we took out our own food for lunch. We crawled away and stood by the single free bench hidden behind some bushes and scrub grass next to the sewer lines. No smiling ruddy faced locals here. Also, I noticed the customers at Orisson where a little different than the Basque food cart. We had talked to few before being sent away, and they were mostly super fit and super intense people who had walked the Camino four times, seven times, nine times. Bankers from Hamburg. Lawyers from Philadelphia. Shiny, shiny people doing shiny, shiny things.

I took all my judgements and packed them up with the leftover Spanish ham and we finished our day’s walk by entering the clouds and walking aside the horses of the Pyrenees.

Everything seems quieter in the fog and mist. Or perhaps it was leaving the relative bustle of Orisson that made it seem so. But the path soon wreathed itself in the kind of fog I had only ever seen in England, with only the occasional clanging of a cow bell in the distance to be heard. Sadly, it was not Will Farrell. Happily, it was a string of horses set out to graze along the path. They would move in and out of sight as the the mist flowed about, almost like a river of smoke. The trail was so quiet you could hear the rip and tear of the tough grass being yanked from the ground by the horse’s huge teeth. Now and then a sheep somewhere out of sight would say, “Baa.” And when I say that sheep said “Baa” I mean that damn Basque sheep said “Baa”, perfectly, literally, like it was making fun of what humans think sheep say. “Hey, Pablo, watch me talk like a human to these pilgrims. ‘Baa. Baa.’ ” It was hilarious. Though I was the only one laughing. I blame Monty Python.

We kept walking, keeping pace with a fellow pilgrim named Abel, from Peru, and two ladies our age from Germany, until we made it to the spot where the statue of the Virgin Mary was supposed to be, but we didn’t see it anywhere. And Stacy has Mom eyes, so she has the ability to find a single loose sock in a teenager’s unkempt room, and she didn’t see it either. And then, like a scene in a 1940’s movie, the fog swirled and flowed away revealing a bright blue sky and a rocky mound with a statue of the Virgin Mary perched on the very top. There she was! The Virgin de’ Orisson, and wow! What an entrance! She was about three feet tall and covered in relics left by previous Pilgrims. Her paint was chipped, and she was slightly weathered, but not weathered as much as I expected after seeing all the super old stuff at St Jean. She was holding the infant Jesus in front of her and she had the strangest look on her face, I swear it was kind of…sarcastic….the eyebrows were arched in a manner the women in my family use when they are politely listening to people they hate. Your take may differ, and I hope it does.

So we made ourselves comfortable on the hillock that surrounded the Virgin (I love that I am accurately and appropriately using the word ‘hillock’), feeling a little let down by the blandness of the Virgin. The thing is I grew up in San Antonio, Texas, and Stacy is an Episcopal priest: we’ve seen a lot of Virgins. Statues, I mean. And compared to the green pastures, the swirling mists, the upwards trail, the sweeping vistas, the smiling Basque cheesemonger, the tattoodled teens and the Koreans, the bankers and the beautiful, and all the other sights and sounds we experienced on our first day on the Camino, the Virgin, her entrance notwithstanding, was less than inspiring.

We waited just long enough to worry that we were going to be left there, and then our ride came for us. Back at St Jean, we were exhausted, but content and full of knowledge about what this whole Camino thing was going to look like. And though we didn’t know it at the time, we actually had experienced about seventy-five percent of everything the Camino was: we hiked, enjoyed a cool family-run albergue, endured a corporate run albergue, met a bunch of strangers, saw beautiful sights, saw boring sights. And as we drifted off to sleep with the ear-plug muted sounds of three people snoring in foreign languages, I started to feel a lot more at peace. Or I was totally exhausted. There’s a fine line between tired and peaceful, and the next day I was going to watch that line be blown away by thirty mile an hour winds. Stay tuned.

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Images from St Jean Pied de Port.

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“So, lemme ‘esplain, no, there is too much, lemme sum up.” or, Why Buddhists are Annoyingly Quiet.

“So, lemme ‘esplain, no, there is too much, lemme sum up.”—that’s one of my favorite quotes from ‘The Princess Bride”, a film I might unfriend you for not liking. It’s near the end of the film when a thick accented Inigo Montoya has to get another character caught up with the plot. I bring this up because of another quote, one of my own from the last Blogpost. It’s one of the many places where I have to just ‘sum up’ instead of fully ‘esplaining…

“ ‘Getting over it’ can happen a lot of ways. For me, I began to practice pure Mindfulness exercises while waiting in the albergue lobbies, which, in short, took away the context from which my anger was wont to arise. That’s all I can tell you. Go get your own ‘Get Over It’ Method.”

When I re-read that it pissed me off. Which was weird, as I had written it. The feeling that rose in me was one that felt cheated as a reader. ” ‘That’s all I can tell you?’ I beg your pardon!? Look here, Pal, I came here to read about a guy telling everything he knows about a thing, and that’s what I want! Everything! Is there a Magnum version of this Blog where he actually tells everything, and I bet it’s all the really juicy cool stuff about Buddha’s sex life?!”

And I had a point. What was I holding back about? Have you watched TV recently? You’re supposed to spill your guts all over the screen and reveal your deepest darkest moments and your shallowest shittiest impulses! That’s what sells, that’s what gets the hits and it always works out so well for the people involved.

There has to be a Reality TV Actors recovery group somewhere.

The trouble is that as a Buddhist, I am not supposed to talk about my own private journey on the path to Nirvanna, except to our chosen Teacher or Master. None of us are. When any of the Abrahamic Siblings get together they can chat all day about their faiths, or blow each other up depending on the week. But when two Buddhists meet, there is a profound silence about the subject. I’ve seen it happen at parties filled with professional theologians. It’s hilarious. And its boring as hell.

Buddhism is the most boring of all the religions. Not just for the lack of blowing each other up, but because of the numerous restrictions against ‘Wrong’ or more accurately, ‘Ignoble’ Speech. We have a whole category for Ignoble Speech that is broken up in sets and subsets. Which is even more boring. It’s kinda what we do: bore Suffering into non-existence.

There’s a bunch of stuff all over the Suttras and the Original Discourses about shutting the hell up in all kinds of ways, not just on the meditation cushion. Thich Nhat Hanh puts it more far more compassionately than I do….

When we share the Dharma, we must speak carefully so that we and our listeners do not get stuck in words or concepts. It’s our duty to transcend words and concepts to be able to encounter reality. To be in touch with the source of our own wisdom is the way to show most eloquently that the Buddha is alive.

And of course, for all the sets and subsets of Ignoble Speech, we have sets and subsets for Right Speech. It’s the third stop on the Eightfold Noble Path, and there’s a lot more to it than the famous aphorism that everything I say must be ‘true, kind and necessary’. ‘Idle chatter’ is massively verbotten, as is claiming to know something you don’t, and here is where we run into a problem.

When it comes to Buddhism, I don’t fully understand what I am talking about. I haven’t lied or misrepresented, but I’ve condensed the hell out of a lot of ideas and concepts, and that makes me nervous.

I have been guilty of lying about my knowledge in the past, along the lines of “Yes, I’ve read Moby Dick.” and I have been guilty of outright lying in the past as in “No, I didn’t sleep with her.” Also, I have used my voice my entire life to make money, and for the sheer pleasure of speaking in front of people. I love words, and they mean a lot to me, so Right Speech is a big deal, and it’s the home of a lot of my pain and a lot of my pleasure.

And the Dharma’s totally correct! Talking about the deepest realizations I have had would be useless, and it would corrupt the realization itself. It’s like when you have a dream that you are driving a car that is a Volkswagon Bug and a pepperoni pizza at the same time. It’s totally clear and obvious inside your head, but if you try to describe verbally how the pizza crust bumper fits into the Volkswagen hood, you’d fail miserably.

Also, it’s nobody else’s business, all that inside stuff, all those amazing insights and realizations. Except, of course, for your teacher. Every Buddhist is supposed to be part of a community guided by an acknowledged master of the Buddhist Dharma. I’m not. And it’s not through some rebellion thing, sadly. It’d be cooler if it was. I’m just afraid. Not sure why.

But…I have an audience. And that’s a start. Y’all have always been my GroupGuru for my entire 25 Years of doing improvisational comedy, “Hi, welcome to the Oxymorons comedy show, for our first suggestion, can someone in our audience shout out a reason for me to continue living?” Back then laughter meant approval, silence was disaster. Now my religion wants me to embrace silence. Of course it does.

Well, I’m trying Buddha. I’m trying real hard.

For now, can I paraphrase St Augustine, “Buddha make me quiet….but not yet.” I still need, and want, and like to share these things with folks like y’all. And I will stick the Rights, as I hope I have already done. But I’m not a teacher, a master or a guru. You guys are. No pressure.

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Seeing the Albergues the ‘Right’ Way.

As we have discussed before, despite being on a pilgrim path, I was not Pilgrimming. I was not in the act of Pilgrimation. I was not a Pilgrim. Unirregardless of this redundancy, I figured I should study some Buddhism since I was going to be walking a lot and there was no one to discuss Star Trek with. As I was on the road, The Eight Fold Noble Path seemed a good start, since it was, you know, named after a path and I was walking one of the biggest paths there was.

THE EIGHTFOLD NOBLE PATH

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THE EIGHTFOLD NOBLE PATH BEING USED INCORRECTLY.

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Right View was first on the list to study, and yeah, we’re supposed to go in order, though each ‘Right’ supports all others. Right View requires one to know about the basics of Buddhism, the Four Noble Truths, what the overall goals are and who the Buddha was. You can’t anywhere on a map until you know what those symbols mean.

“What now is Right View? It is understanding of suffering, understanding of the origin of suffering, understanding of the cessation of suffering, understanding of the way leading to the cessation of suffering.”-Buddha.

And since Buddha says Right View has a lot to do with understanding suffering, let’s talk about the albergues, the hostels of the Camino de Santiago. For those of you who have experience with youth hostels, you can wipe that knowing smile off your face. Albergues ain’t youth hostels. We stayed in a classic Youth Hostel in Dublin at the end of our trip and I found nothing had significantly changed since my last stay fifteen years ago. The hostel kitchen even had that same “All European” smell…like how every elementary school cafetorium has the same processed-food-and-sweaty-kid-odor. Not so the albergues. In the albergues of Spain you will find a variety of interpretations of hospitality that would make the Crayola 64 Box blush.

An albergue is an albergue when it is an official hostel of the Camino de Santiago, inspected and approved by the Jacobean Council. But they are actually operated and managed by a kaleidescope of religious orders, private foundations and just plain ole folks. We use the albergues because they are always the most inexpensive options for lodging. To keep things fair, one must have an official passbook obtained at the beginning of your journey to receive the offered Pilgrim rate, and those books will be checked. The prices run from cheap all the way down to too damn cheap and at that level you will get what you pay for.

All albergues will have a check-in area, a common room for eating/cooking, the sleeping quarters, and a basic common toilet/shower. The check-in area may be a family home’s front hallway or a football field sized room of an old monastery. The sleeping quarters may be two twin beds in one room, or one- hundred twin bunk-beds in a single room with no separations whatsoever. There may be a single toilet with a shower, or thirty showers, sinks and toilets in one giant antiscepticly porcelain tiled room.

Our first albergue was in St Jean Pied de Port, and its status was right in the middle of that bell curve. We were going to share an alcove with two other people and we had made reservation a long time ago, so all should be just fine. However, I was coming right off my freak out over the walking sticks, so when we walked into the check in area and it was crammed to the rafters with twenty seven other people all also waiting to check-in an hour early, my stomach roiled with visions of Stacy, roomless, in the streets, looking helpless and disappointed in me. It must be said I have these visions of personal disaster quite a bit, a lot more than I realized until I began to meditate. Well, meditating and talking to my wife about my feelings. It’s amazing how much wisdom you can find when your wife blinks, pauses and tells you slowly, “No, most people never, ever think that.”

The room was in the center of the building, with a hall leading to the back and stairs leading upstairs to two other floors. Of the 27 pilgrims filling the space, 75% of them were from South Korea, and most were standing, as there were only a few chairs available. The room was quieter than a room packed with 27 people should have been. There was an aura of the principal’s office, or the DMV. Looking about I realized that everybody was in the same head space as me; this was everyone’s first stop on the Camino, and nobody knew what to expect . . . . Man, it was so tense it actually became fun for awhile, like a cheap version of Casablanca. Because every single one of those 27 people knew there were no other rooms in St Jean. It was Chemin vers l’Etoile Albergue, or the firestation floor.

And then, Eric began to talk.

He was the proprietor of the Chemin vers l’Etoile, and he had a speech ready to go for that room of worried people that was razor sharp and warm as a Grandmother’s hug. Eric was 6’1, chunky but not fat, with a respectable salt and pepper beard and an accent that changed with every guest he spoke to. As the posted check-in time approached, he raised his voice and began to speak to us in slow English, welcoming us to the Camino.

As he began to check folks he was like a Basque Andy Griffith, chatting up the guests and dispensing wisdom to everyone else in the crowded room. Eric told us he had walked the Camino himself, and loved it so much he came back and took over this albergue. He warned us all that the coming trail was going to be difficult, and that the best way to prepare was to let go of all expectations, and to accept the path as it comes. He said it better than that, of course, and it was all said between checking in twenty-seven nervous people into their rooms, in small palatable drops of wisdom wrapped in smiles and the comforting tones of the competent. Brother Eric didn’t stop there either, he went on to say that you had to be true to your insides, and to listen to what is in your heart. No shit, he was getting into it!—and he meant it. And any chance of sounding cliché were negated by the obvious passion in his eyes and words. It was absolutely clear this man was exactly who he seemed to be, and he was doing exactly what he wanted to do.

It might have been just a nice way to start a journey if it wasn’t for the specific message of everything Eric had said, or more specifically what he didn’t say. He never said a single word about Christianity. It was all the path, and he came back again and again to letting go of expectations . . . being true to your insides . . .

He might as well have been quoting the Buddha.

After watching Eric live the religion I was studying right in front of my eyes, I could feel my attitude change. Well, continue to change. I could still feel my embarrassment from The Hiking Sticks, but I could also see a way out of that feeling; both side by side, looking up at me from the floor of my mind, surrounded by a bunch of other feelings that were evaporating into mist.

So, let’s us apply a little Right View to what I am going to experience with these here albergues:

The understanding of suffering: Yes, you are not wrong, The albergue system is slow, clumsy and extremely basic.

The understanding of the origin of suffering: The albergue system has to serve 120+ different cultures and nations and it MUST do it inexpensively. Therefore, the system HAS to be slow, clumsy and basic to serve this vastly diverse clientele affordably.

The understanding of the cessation of suffering: The albergue system is not designed for “your” comfort, they are designed to keep you alive. There is nothing you can do to change this system, so find a way to get over it.

The understanding of the way leading to the cessation of suffering: “Getting over it” can happen a lot of ways. For me, I began to practice pure Mindfulness exercises while waiting in the albergue lobbies, which, in short, took away the context from which my anger was wont to arise. That’s all I can tell you. Go get your own “Get Over It” Method.

In the end we got a room, Stacy charmed everyone with her perfect Spanish, the room was fine, South Koreans are very polite, and we went to bed early so we would be rested for our first morning as Official pilgrims. It was hard to sleep, as I was still simmering from all the input St. Jean had provided; input both material and spiritual. And the dharma was there. It was a comfort to see my faith actually working, proving itself to be true and applicable in my daily life. But it was a frightening comfort, because if this Buddhist stuff actually works, then I’m going to have to actually do it.

Oh, shit. I was pilgrim.

Good thing I had a map.

Right view is the forerunner of the entire path, the guide for all the other factors. It enables us to understand our starting point, our destination, and the successive landmarks to pass as practice advances. -Bhikinu Bhodi

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Website for Chemin vers l’Etoile Albergue

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Hot Take on the Ten Commandments

In an article from Mother Jones, “To Understand JD Vance, You Need to Meet the ‘TheoBros’,” about a loosely affiliated extreme Christian nationalist group of pastors and influencers. Some of these guys “believe that the Constitution is dead and that we should be governed by the Ten Commandments.” The more I think about it, the less it makes sense. And even in less extreme groups, the Big Ten are thrown around as if it’s obvious that they should be a touchstone for our laws.

Moses Ten Commandments Stones Isolated on White Background.

Let’s set to one side the fact that 40% of the Ten Commandments are about God (which is exactly why they should not be displayed—alone and/or without context—in our civic institutions). The Christian Nationalists and others want a theocracy. But do they really want all of the Commandments?

For example, respecting the Sabbath: Are they willing to commit to all workers having Saturday off, all stores and gas stations closed? (I’ll grant them Sunday instead, if they insist.) Would their submissive wives be freed from their domestic labors one full day a week?

Most folks are fine with the no killing and no stealing and honoring one’s parents. The not committing adultery has not gone very well for lots of public evangelicals/fundamentalists. I’m sure these extremists are confident that they are adultery-proof, but human nature isn’t really on their side.

Not bearing false witness seems to prohibit passing on rumors about immigrants eating pets or disingenuously denying climate change.

And how would one enforce the not coveting on a national level, which is 20% of the commandments? I mean, if you take it seriously it would mean the end of most advertisements and a good chunk of how our economy is structured.

The not taking the Lord’s name in vain, IMHO, is violated daily by folks who conflate God and guns, God and the US, God and domination, who cover up abuse in the church, etc. The TheoBros and their ideological neighbors would disagree, but it’s a question I want to ask them.

Also, it is interesting that in the MoJo article, Jesus is mentioned by these guys hardly at all . . .

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St. Jean Pied de Port, the Camino Begins.

Getting to the place where the Camino de Santiago begins is a crucial part of the journey, many say the crucialiest. Actually, they don’t say that as crucialiest is not a word. What can be said is that it is not that easy to find the beginning of the Camino because the Camino begins in a bunch of different places. This was hard for me to understand, as I assumed a pilgrimage road was a single established path from one place to another, you know, like a road. But apparently there are five or six different routes you can take and still have it be called the Camino.

Kind of reminds me of the Trinity.

We were walking the French route of the Camino, which is the most popular and the best tasting of all the routes, so we planed, trained and automobiled it from Chicago to our beginning in St Jean Pied de Port, France, just over the Spanish border. The town is absolutely beautiful, which is suspicious as hell. As an American, a Texan, a Chicagoan and an avid consumer of cinema I am always suspicious of overly picturesque places. Right when it gets all quiet, nice and idyllic is when the Ninjas jump on you from the rafters you that were too distracted by all that quiet niceness to have noticed.

I have come to accept that I am a very odd person, odd enough to know my oddness is a problem and not just a cute facet of my personality. My teeth grate when I meet those who proudly proclaim how different everyone thinks they are. We don’t. You’re just loud. That’s not different, it’s annoying and we are all just being nice. Odd is when you have an panic attack triggered by performance anxiety while buying hiking sticks in a French Village. And I did.

During the entire journey from Chicago to St Jean I was stewing hard. My stew was made from worrying about getting to St Jean, worrying about Stacy walking 500 miles, worrying that she could tell I was worrying and it was all heated up to a steaming, bubbling goo by the fact I had no idea what I was doing on the Camino de Santiago.

I am not a Christian, Spain is not one of my favorite cultures (I have six favorite cultures throughout time and Space), and I even suck as a Buddhist and now I was going to have to walk 500 miles with with Christian Spaniards who are all wonderful at being Christians.

Now, it is okay to suck as a Buddhist. All Buddhists suck at it in the beginning, we’re supposed to, and the the Buddha tells us this. So, fine. But I was sucking extra hard as I was floundering in my attempts to join a Sangha, a community of Buddhists. It was one of the four things I swear to uphold every time I meditate, and I just couldn’t do it. There were reasons, good ones, deep and sticky with trauma, and I was starting to get at them, but on the day my boots hit the soil of France, I was a churning pile of confusion wearing a cheap plastic Hasbro mask of “Everything’s Fine Man,” and that little rubber band holding it on was about to snap.

My sangha problem comes from the fact that I am not a joiner. When a bunch of people start to do the same thing, in general I hang back with the smokers to watch what’s going to go wrong, and then we put on a show to make fun of it all. That’s been my life for the past 40 years. Making fun of the group. The group I’m not a part of. The only group I’ve ever felt okay with is a cast of actors under a strong director. Everyone else, you’re just audience I’m trying to please until I can have sex or get alone. And now, I was going to have my nose rubbed in a fecund pile of a group of half a million of The Best Most Wonderful Christians Ever In All the Best Most Beautiful Cathedrals Ever Doing Wonderful Christian Things Together in Wonderful Ways!!!

Feh.

Meh.

And Feh to the power of Meh.

Now, I am going to leave a blank paragraph space, which is to represent all the things I have said against religion over my career as an Improv actor performing for drunken college students. This is a technique taken from Hokusai, where I use empty space as a repository for negative thoughts.

Ah. Emptiness is so much better than cliched anti-religious humor, isn’t it? Now, all those things not up there, and there are a whole lot of things not up there, had the backbone of my sincere belief that religion has been harmful to society in many ways. That backbone has been torn out with a Finishing move of Faith by the woman walking at my side. I know and understand that a blanket condemnation of faith is just as wrongheaded as fanatical religious orthodoxy. That literally replacing blind faith with blind doubt gets one nowhere. But I am still walking in the groove those thoughts and feelings have left in me. And I am not sure how many times I will be able to passively enjoy a church covered in gold stolen with the use of slave labor from the Americas….

Stop it. Breathe. Everyone has a right to happiness…

So, its the first day of our pilgrimage and Stacy and I are in the thick of Camino Nation in the town where at least 200,000 pilgrims will begin their journey in 2023. We get in the line for our official passbooks, and everyone is talking and chatting in a dozen languages. The line is scary long, long enough to make us wonder if the trail was going to me more crowded than we thought. It is. Everyone was talking about it, the huge turnout this year, this month, this week. Do you have a room? You do? You’re lucky. Fifteen people are going to have to spend the night in the fire station. Really? Oh my yes, the town has give them a place to sleep, isn’t that nice? Oh, it sure is! Where are you from? Where are you going? What stops have you scheduled? How far are you going each day? What kind of socks do you wear? Do you have ibuprofen? Isn’t the town lovely? Where are you eating? You don’t know? Oh you should try [ five different restaurants in Basque accented French are rattled off like a machine gun of syllables ]. Oh, we will! Do you have your hat? A good waterproof coat? Do you have your walking sticks?

Walking sticks. All my anxieties and doubts, all my negative kilesas, all my childhood bullshit trauma…were about to be poured into the form of two aluminum and plastic-tipped walking sticks.

First of all, my perception of walking sticks is that they are for old people. Mall walkers. The soon-to-die. I am corrected in this misconception with the information that everyone on the Camino uses them, all the guides say so. Oh good, the group wants me to do something. Something I never did on the thousands of miles I hiked and walked as a youth in Texas. No triggers there at all. Oh look, there’s a store that specializes in Camino equipment, everyone says they are the best. Really? Oh good, something else the group wants me to do. And the store is charming, and well maintained, and run by a person who has been doing nothing but this one thing for decades, and so I have to give her money. I have to. If I don’t, her business will fail. And she will see my face every time she thinks about her ruined life. And they have so much to tell me about the sticks, so much they want me me to know, so many decisions I have to make about them. And Stacy helps as well, telling me other tidbits of info to help in the decision. And then a passerby from Canada stops to argue with the salesperson, disagreeing with her on a certain point about a certain brand of stick. Suddenly, I am trying to make the salesperson happy, my wife happy, the stranger happy all the same time while doing something I didn’t want to do in the first, second and third place. Everyone is telling me what to do, how to do it, where to do it and how I should feel about it. All of them are looking at my face, wanting and needing a reaction from me, a pleasing reaction, they all need affirmation for their opinions and views, and I can’t give it to them as it is tied to my opinion about these ridiculous walking sticks for this ridiculous pilgrimage that I didn’t want in the first place an no sane person would want if they had a true grasp of their spirituality and..and …and…

My face froze, and I stammered like a teenager. I saw their faces become disturbed by my disturbance and they all backed off.

15,000 hours of improv and I lose it with a stick salesman.

I lost it because my mask was loosening by the second, and I could feel it falling. Regardless of my opinion, regardless of my views of religion, regardless of my feelings about Spain, I was about to go on a 500 mile walk with my wife. I wasn’t going to be able to hide a damn thing from her. She already knew me too well, and I was going to be surrounded by people who I can’t dazzle with my jokes and funny voices. And it’s not that I was hiding anything from her in the first place, it’s that I was hiding everything from everybody. But Stacy wasn’t everybody, she…mattered,…?

I had worked hard to make sure nothing I do really mattered. I had felt the pain of others too much as a child, and so I lived of life of short relationships or long shallow ones, abandoning friendships and family as fast as I could. Family was synonymous with pointless struggle, feckless acts of kindness and forced smiles. This was the mental poison that made me distrust the group, the happy people, the beautiful people, the successful ones.

I didn’t know all this while stammering in front of a hiking stick salesman, but I was starting to. It was important to me to ‘fit the script’, to do what the situation requires. You tell me what’s needs to be done, and I do it. That I why I love the theater so much, Here’s the script, there’s the stage, there’s the audience. Everyone understand what is supposed to happen and the roles, in every sense, that we are to play. But often in real life, people have one script in public and one script in their heads. Or things aren’t clear, like the signage in the Pamplona bus station, which made me furious. I was crystal calm while supporting 15 years of my raging manic depressive mother, but a bad placard will make me shout at inanimate objects.

Now, I did know some of that while stammering in front of a hiking stick salesman….but I didn’t understand it.

Eventually I made it to the counter and paid for a pair of walking sticks, and we left, all of us embarrassed for me. Stacy was being very understanding, but doubtlessly worried I was going to be a problem for the whole hike. I was too. I didn’t want to be. And if I wasn’t, I was going to have to let go of some of that shit, that shit that I had unpacked in that hiking pole store that was now all over the floor of my mind. Look at it all, memories, trauma, personal failures, excuses, reasons, opinions….how was I going to fit all that crap into my pack?

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So, what the heck is the The Camino de Santiago anyway?

Here are some basic facts about the Camino de Santiago.

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The Camino de Santiago is not a single path, but a network of paths mostly crossing Spain and Portugal, all ending in the Arch cathedral Basilica in Santiago de Compostela on the Atlantic coast of Spain. The purpose of the pilgrimage is to venerate the (supposed) remains of St James the Apostle, which were discovered in Spain in the 9th century AD. It is one of three great pilgrimages of Christianity along with Jerusalem and the Via Francigena that leads to Rome.

The Camino de Santiago was not always a popular pilgrim route, its first heyday being in the Late Middle Ages when the rulers of the brand new Kingdom of Spain promoted the Camino to increase trade, immigration, military/religious support from other parts of Europe, and a national identity distinct from their Moorish opponents. It was a 1957 book, ‘Road to Santiago’ by Walter Starkie which reignited modern interest in the Camino, an interest Generalissimo Francisco Franco’s fascist government supported heavily.

A Catholic can earn a plenary indulgence during a Jubilee year from a completion of the pilgrimage, which is made official by the filling out of an official passbook with stamps from, at the least, the last 100k of the journey and a Mass in the Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela. The next Jubilee year is 2027.

Over the centuries pilgrim attendance has been measured by the issuance of these passbooks, and the official completion of the passbook in Santiago. Recent attendance figures are plentiful, but made opaque by vague reporting. The numerous sites one can explore were unclear about the difference between “finishing” the Camino and “attempting” the Camino. The clearest reporting came from ‘Viajes’, a Camino De Santiago website https://viajecaminodesantiago.com/en/news/way-statistics-year/, which stated….

“As can be seen, a total of 446,039 pilgrims arrived in Santiago in 2023 and requested the Compostela. It’s important to note that not all pilgrims who arrive in Santiago request the Compostela, and the actual number is likely higher. Additionally, many pilgrims do not even reach Santiago but only complete segments of the Way.”

A variance of 50,000 existed in the statistics, including Camino de Santiago funded websites. Spanish citizens consistently comprised half of the pilgrim population.

Early morning on the Navarra section of the Camino Santiago. Photo by author.

The Camino is maintained by numerous organizations and associations, including national and local Spanish governments, but it is considered the Crown property of the King of Spain and is overseen by the Consejo Jacobeo (Jacobean Council): https://www.cultura.gob.es/consejo-jacobeo/en/consejo-jacobeo-mcd.html, which consists of state, private and religious tourism officials, both elected and appointed.

All along the route are hostels, called albergues, which provide beds, shelter and other amenities. The services and quality vary greatly. There are also hotels and un-official hostels along the way if you need a bathtub for a night. But even if every hotel and albergue are full, every town on the Camino trail must guarantee any Pilgrim (with an up to date passbook) a place to sleep at night, even if it’s the floor of the local fire station.

Crime committed upon pilgrims is virtually non-existent and women are, by and large, able to walk the Camino alone and unmolested.

The cathedral in Compestella, the last stop for most pilgrims. Photo by author.

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So, What’s in the Bag?

There are two main questions about preparing for the Camino:

What will I need while walking everyday for two months across Northern Spain?

First, let us unpack the concept of packing. The fact that it is even a concept is fascinating as there are a great many things that never even make it to the concept phase, such as edible shoes. But packing has graduated all the way from a concept to an industry! Ask Rick Steves, he’ll tell ya.

We Americans have a lot of baggage when it comes to what we put in our luggage. And for a very good reason. Very few of us Americans are supposed to be here in the first place. All of us have some form of luggage in our ancestral tree, and so as we careen about our Modern world we carry with us the cultural memory of us leaving…EVERYTHING! Who does that? Who the hell just throws everything your family has every owned into a burlap sack and then just trek off to someplace that may not even be there!?

Americans. The inventors of the frequent flyer mile.

First, the idea of traveling being easy and even fun is a very new reality. Up until a century or so ago, travel was unreliable, dangerous and completely devoid of neck pillows. When you packed you packed for survival, not for comfort. Today, as we load our hopefully-carry-on-bag, we run the complex packing logarithm of {distance of destination} with the [events at the destination] and then divide by the (people I will be with at the destination) and then multiply the whole thing with ‘{{Who am I as a person}}. Yeah, I said that! Who you are as a person, your identity, your entire personality is in that bag: everything that allows you to be seen as you want to be seen, from toothpaste to socks. The nice part is, when you travel you don’t have to bring every crappy shirt and old nasty pair of jeans that you can’t bear to throw away. You can leave the unpleasant reality of that messy closet behind. And that makes it easier to leave the unpleasant reality of yourself behind, as well. We often find while traveling we are drawn to do things we would never do at home. Often, people travel to deliberately do things they would never do at home.

But that ain’t happening in Spain. Because the Camino is not a vacation. It’s not a fun trip. It’s not a weekend in Vegas. It’s not BBQ and Honky Tonk Music in Nashville. It’s not even a four day rafting trip on the Colorado river. Officially, the Camino de Santiago is longer than fun. And when fun ends, the brain starts to throw any old thought it can find in there to keep you occupied. So eventually, all that crap you thought you left behind in your closet will come out of the suitcase in your mind…and you’d better have some Merino Sheep Wool when it does.

Packing for the Camino Santiago is a return to the good ole’ packing for survival method. You know, what do I need so I won’t die in the wilderness. Despite the fact both Stacy and I have both camped and hiked in the past, we had never done so for six weeks in a row, so we needed advice about what to pack, And everybody wants to give you their Dos Centavos about it. On Facebook alone there are 40+ rooms with 3.5K followers or more all sharing every iota of info about the Camino. After looking through a lot of it, there were several categories of consideration. 1. The care of your feet. 2. The weight of the backpack 3. The type of clothes. 4. Medicines you need.

My favorite fact was that your filled backpack should weigh only 10% of your total body weight. It’s such an intimate standard of measurement.

For the 4 categories above, I don’t think I need to add to the pile of info already there. They got it figured out. Also your legs, brain, skin, soul and stamina are different than mine, and you will need to make different choices that I would when it comes to packing and prepping. But I think I can add a couple of non-obvious universals to add to the plethora ( long live the Three Amigos) of packing tips for the Camino.

1. Be prepared to pack and unpack in the dark and near dark. As a pilgrim, you will be getting up early and be sleeping in places with bad, weird and non-existent lighting. Having your own small, gentle light source is good, but it’s better if you practice packing blindfolded at home a few times.

2. Plastic ziplock bags will fail you and they crinkle surprisingly loud at 430AM or 10PM in a communal hostel room. Go cloth if you can.

3. Spend the money on the shoes. There some wonderful products for adventure hiking and pilgriming, and they can cost a lot. A whole lot. A whole lot of a lot. Now as for pants, shirts, socks, hats, you are going to have to jump in there and make up your mind, there are lots of options. Shop like an American and have fun, dig for those bargains! Hunt for reliable product reviews! Now, as a progressive who is almost fanatically distrustful of anything expensive, I wanted to go on the cheap as far as gear, and I am very glad we didn’t. However, I think it is possible to go used and second hand for a lot of the stuff, except for the shoes. If you’re a cheapskate like me, just grit your teeth and go the most expensive camping store you can find, get fitted by an actual person and buy the 1st or 2nd most expensive shoe they recommend. You will not regret the money spent. Anything can be salvaged of a bad day as long as your feet are healthy.

And the second main question is…

What will I need to support my spiritual experience of a pilgrimage?

I had no idea whatsoever. I’m still not sure. I think that may be Stacy’s bailiwick. Whaddya say, Hon?

HOT LINKS:

—-For fun, check out “Joe versus The Volcano Luggage scene” on Youtube.

—-For more fun, Here is a link to George Carlin’s piece entitled a “A place for my stuff“, partly about deciding what to pack. CAUTION: There is Rated R language, but gentle content.

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Hey, what’s your problem? Oh. That’s your problem.

A door knocker in Basque country, 2023. Photo by author.

The dharma of the Buddha loves to be a helper to its students. And it does so by being precise. Very precise. Extremely precise. Now, can we be honest and admit that when a person gets precise and exact, it always sounds kinda rude, or even bitchy?

“What does the clock say, 12:00?” “It says 12:03.”

“I think our turn-off is coming up soon.” “It’s coming up in 53 yards.”

“That’s a nice shade of blue.”  “It’s midnight azure.”

You gotta bend that tone pretty hard to make ‘bitchy’ sound like ‘benign precision.’

This is all true because knowing things is obnoxious and rude.  Which means the Dharma is the most obnoxious thing in the entire universe.

There’s a lovely term called Kilesa, or Klesha, depending on who you need to impress. My man Ajahn Buddhadasa Bhikkhu spells it kilesa, therefore so will I. A kilesa is a particular state of mind that leads one to unwholesome or unwise actions. That’s a pretty easy thing to picture. We get them all the time. Candy bars use them to sell product: have you heard of ‘Hangry’? Boom, kilesa. Have you seen a movie full of sadness and then feel sad? Kilesa. Have you ever stuck your hand in a paint can full of paint and then pulled it slowly out, like in one of those industrial movies about how they make crayons? That’s not a kilesa, that’s just fun to do.

So kilesas—an unwholesome mental state—easy to understand, right? Well, guess what? Buddha and his bald-headed pals have amassed a list of 108 separate kilesas that spring from 5 basic kilesa categories. Which is cosmically annoying in a personal way! Because with Buddhism you can’t even have a problem all to yourself! Ever bad feeling you have ever had, even the really shitty ones, the ones you spent all that time working on—someone else has already had ’em and made a commemorative calendar with ’em! So when I go to the Dharma and tell it, ‘I have a bad feeling,’ it basically says, “Yes, and this is exactly the feeling you’re having, this is where it came from, this is how to get rid of it, these are the four difficulties you will have trying to get rid of it, and this is the hat it likes to wear on Saturdays. Now go and do it.”

Damn it, Buddha! I was enjoying the impossibility of my despair.

Getting the answer to your problems is not the answer to your problems. Applying that answer, using that answer is the answer to your problems. I have enjoyed discovering how much I have unconsciously valued my problems. It has brought a level of clownish ridiculousness to them, and that has made them even more vulnerable to the truth. My Wiccan comrades talk about knowing the true name of a thing is a key to having power of it. I see that reflected in the kilesas.

Soon, I would be facing down every Kilesa I have ever had, and I would nothing but time to think about them while walking through Spain, the land of redneck quiche.

The step of a thousand miles begins with the first complaint.

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Caminante, no hay camino . . . se hace el camino al andar

My husband loves me very much, God bless him, and he puts a lot of energy into making me happy. Until he showed me his recent post, I had no idea how much he had dreaded our epic sabbatical trip.

I have walked all my life. With the exception of several years in small Midwestern cities, I have always depended on my feet (and busses and trains) to get me places. From middle school, when I walked a mile uphill to get home, to college in Seattle, and seminary in New York City, and a year in Costa Rica, where in each place I depended exclusively on public transportation, to Chicago, where my kids still don’t have drivers licenses, I have taken pride in my ability to self-propel without a car. Age and genetics, however, mean that I now need to wear compression stockings to keep my legs from swelling up. Heat makes it worse.

But the Camino had been on my mind for ten years. And as I thought about what I needed from a sabbatical, the idea of having no agenda any day but to walk—no cat herding, no demands on my limited and inconsistent executive functions, no one depending on my wisdom or asking me to make complicated or important decisions—that seemed like heaven. I had never spent time in Spain, but a 24 hour layover Madrid in January of 2020 had clinched my desire to go.

So, yes, this was my idea and I enthusiastically embraced it. I was delighted when John agreed to go with me. (He was never going to let me go alone, it turns out, which was for the best.) But seriously, I had NO IDEA what we were getting into. We read the books and blogs and made multiple intersecting lists of what to pack and attempted to train on the flat streets and sidewalks of Chicago, but like any significant decision—marriage, ordination, school, having kids—you do your best to comprehend the commitment and the consequences, and in the end you still HAVE NO IDEA.

The heat did become a problem and, while I am slow but steady, my body did eventually raise objections. And I will never walk as fast with a backpack as my husband. But y’all. Y’ALL. In those first few days on the Camino, I walked across the frickin’ Pyrenees. Where Napolean crossed with his army and cannons and sh*t. And then we walked some more.

Carrying my own damn backpack the whole way.  

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